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20 questions a woman should ask herself – question no. 2


It’s been more than a week since I posted question no. 1. Now, we’re off to question no. 2 from Martha Beck’s Yours for the Asking article in the February 2011 edition of O, The Oprah Magazine.

Is this what I want to be doing?

Time is precious because it is limited to 24 hours a day. This second question aims to foster mindfulness of the here and now. Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily routine that we just let time pass us by and we forget about the things that matter.


I personally find this question helpful as I try to schedule and maximize my weekends. I try my very best not to work on Saturdays and Sundays unless absolutely necessary. I also surf facebook less than I used to. I have long let go of my plants and zombies. I read somewhere that ‘poor’ people spend on entertainment while ‘rich’ people invest in themselves. Point taken so I try to squeeze in more time for reading and self-help, learning to cook, menu planning, finding ways to be a better mom. I rarely oversleep anymore.

The big thing that bothers me though is that I sometimes feel I’m in the wrong career. After completing the Certified Management Accountant (CMA) course I took last May, I don’t feel motivated to finish the case paper and take the exam. I also have long abandoned reading and keeping myself abreast in latest developments in the profession. I’m not certain if it’s just a phase or something that I should take very seriously and soul-search upon. I’m sure I have been very passionate once about being a Certified Public Accountant and auditor.

While still mulling over that predicament consciously and subconsciously, I have decided to focus on things that interest me such as writing, hoping that in the process, i’d find myself and what I truly want to be and do in my 30’s. It’s never too late for new beginnings.

Finding the answers starts with posing the right questions…


20 questions a woman should ask herself (question no. 1)


Instead of staring into space or willing the traffic to move, I bring my pinkpad with me on my everyday commute and listen to podcasts or read books or magazines.

Today, I read the February 2011 edition of O, The Oprah Magazine which was a free download. I especially liked Martha Beck’s column May We Help You? This month’s topic was all about the 20 essential questions every woman should ask herself. Since I’m currently at a ‘confused’ stage, the article caught my attention. Maybe asking the right questions could help me ‘find’ myself and redirect my life appropriately.

Knowing which changes are best for you comes, always, from assessing what you feel. Ask yourself every day.

Yours for the Asking question number 1 is:
…Without this question, you wouldn’t ask any others, so it gets top billing. It creates an alert, thoughtful mind state, ideal for ferreting out the information you most need in every situation. Ask it frequently.”

I know that my answer to this would be, “What do I really want?” because hubby keeps telling me I should try to discover what I truly want instead of merely saying or recognizing the things I don’t want.

I’m magulo and don’t have concrete plans to get to where I want. And that’s a fact that my husband pointed out to me just the other night. I argued that I do have plans but I need to invest in myself and some capital, which brings me to my other favorite question for the past month: “Bakit hinde ako nananalo sa lotto? Bakit?!!!” (pretty desperately). Anyway, after someone won the 6 55 grand lotto last night, I decided to quit this nonsense dream that I will win the lotto someday. There’s got to be a better way. Hmmm… What are those ways?

I will answer the other questions in the coming days. Hopefully, after I get to question no. 20, I’ll be on my way to a better me. Yet. After all, change never ends.